Underpaid, overworked & undervalued

by Peter Urs Bender

(NC)-"There are two things people want more than sex and money," said Mary K. Ash. "Recognition and praise." There's no doubt they drive all of us. Mary Kay Ash's description fits 99.99% of the population.
   Ask individual workers. They see themselves as underpaid, overworked, and undervalued. But if you probe a little you will quickly find they're not too upset about the work and the money. They are starving for recognition and praise!
   If you ask their bosses, they most likely say their employees are overpaid, underworked, and overvalued. Who is right? Maybe neither. Bosses could immediately become leaders if they recognized the need for personal recognition and praise. Don't be quite so stingy with kind words. What might it cost, apart from some unnecessary pride?
   You can talk negatively about your own car. You might even refer to it as an old rustbucket, a lemon, or a piece of junk. But if I ask you, "Did you come to work in your old piece of junk today?" you'll probably get very upset with me. It's okay for you to belittle something of your own (maybe even tongue-in-cheek), but I don't have the same privilege.
   The same holds true for your spouse. You might call your better half "the sloppy, stupid old ____". One of my friends used to refer to his mother (affectionately) as "the old bag". I've heard husbands referred to as "old beer-guts" or "the couch potato". But let someone else refer to him or her in those terms, and watch out!
   If you make the right decision, using your Gutfeeling, you will call it one of your skills.
   If you make the wrong decision you will blame it on Gutfeeling.


   When did you last think you were underpaid, overworked, and undervalued?


   Exerpt from Gutfeeling:Instinct and Spirituality@Work, by Peter Urs Bender, www.Bender.ca.